Monday, June 15, 2009

A good relationship is like a great conversation

My clients are amazing and I can't begin to tell you how much I value their insight and their willingness to be open. The other day I had the most fantastic conversation with a client during which time she shared a quote that went something like this, "A good marriage is like a conversation that you never wish to cut short" which she attributed to Bill Cosby. Wanna talk about an "aha" moment, wowsa...that one was a doozie.

As I was driving home from our meeting I got to thinking how right the quote was and not just in regards to marriage, but in most substantial relationships, intimate or otherwise. I then began to mentally draft my list of what constitutes a good conversation which went something like this...

A good conversation:

stimulates
makes you think
encourages growth
challenges
supports you in becoming a better person
flows
excites
has calming and comfortable silences
is an equal exchange of thoughts, feelings, and ideas
is without judgment
is open and honest

Looking back over this list, that is exactly what I wish to give and have in my relationships. I wish to continue to develop, explore, and create relationships that are like that awesome conversation that I never wish to cut short. So, dear friends, what constitutes a good conversation/relationship for you? Can't wait to find out!!

Monday, June 01, 2009

Making The Most of Every Moment

The last few weeks have been a wild ride for sure, but my family has come out on the other side stronger and quite thankful. As I mentioned a few weeks back my ex-hubby was diagnosed with cancer. Fortunately, three weeks after an extensive 10 hour surgery is he on the road to recovery and cancer free. To say that I'm relieved would be an understatement, certainly. I'm downright grateful; grateful that he is OK and grateful for the learning opportunities that presented themselves.

I learned and re-learned a great deal over the past few weeks that's for sure. I learned/re-learned...

-That it's OK to share when you are scared or in pain. Doing so actually makes you a stronger person. (My heartfelt thanks to some special friends, colleagues, and my students for being so supportive.)
-There is a great deal of power in feeling your feelings through.
- Wisdom doesn't always come with age. My son, at the age of 14 holds a great deal of wisdom. Despite the uncertainty he maintained a positive attitude and was more than willing to share words of encouragement and wisdom.
- The heart has an amazing capacity to love if you remain open.
- Life is meant to be lived full-out; it's full of opportunities, positive risks and challenges which are just waiting to be embraced.
- To make each and every moment count and never let an opportunity pass by to express how much others mean to you.
- Gratitude is one of the most powerful forms of expression. I'm even more grateful for every second of every day than I was before.

Onward and upward, as they say. Now it's time for some fun, some recharging and some positive risk taking. Please stay tuned for some exciting announcements and new opportunities to be shared. In the meantime, please be well and remember every second we have here is a true gift.