Monday, December 29, 2008

Forty-Two Lessons Learned

Today as I embark on my 42nd year on this Earth I thought it might be fun to celebrate by sharing 42 things I have learned along the way and not necessarily in chronological order. Since I am not one to reinvent the wheel, feel free to borrow, tweak, and make use of any of the following. Oh, and who knows, depending on how this turns out it might just become a yearly tradition. :)

1. Climbing trees and making mud pies is good for the soul. (And Mom, I never broke my arm swinging from our old willow tree so all that worry was for nothing.)
2. Never eat with your mouth open. Not only is it rude, but it's a waste of good food.
3. Even when your heart breaks, which sometimes it does, it does mend bigger and stronger than before.
4. Never under estimate the power of forgiveness, especially of one's own self.
5. Approaching a situation with a child-like curiosity creates a completely different perspective.
6. An open heart really does lead to an open mind.
7. Forty-two is not too old to turn cartwheels or do the splits.
8. Granny panties might be great for avoiding panty lines, but they're not all that pretty no matter how much lace they have on them. (No offense meant to anyone who wears them. They are comfy; I'll give you that.)
9. Dust bunnies can be the size of a small dog or large rodent. (Especially if you have a dog that sheds her own body weight in hair on a daily basis.)
10. Music is like a box of crayons for the soul. A day without music (IMHO) is a day without color.
11. Being in the present moment is the most perfect place in the world to be. For it's in the present moment where all the real juicy goodness happens.
12. Milk may do a body good, but so does copping an attitude of gratitude.
13. The brain, while a truly amazing marvel, cannot think positive and negative thoughts at the same time.
14. You can spend a gazillion dollars to beautify your outside, but it's your inside that truly counts. If you aren't feeling it on the inside, no amount of money will help you to feel it on the outside.
15. Children have a wonderful way of holding you accountable. (I have the most amazing accountability agent on the planet! Thank you, Son. I love you bunches!!)
16. Being vulnerable does not make you weak, it actually makes you stronger.
17. Being a strong woman does not compromise your ability to be soft and feminine.
18. High heels might be pretty, but they can be murder on the feet. (Especially when standing in them for more than two hours.)
19. Worrying what others think of you only holds you hostage and keeps you from being who you truly are.
20. Cheese does not age gracefully or tastefully when left in the fridge for several months. (Grilled cheese sandwich anyone?)
21. Always share and give from the heart with no expectations or strings attached.
22. "Thank you" and "I love you" are truly magically phrases, especially when they come from the heart.
23. If you're getting lots of stares it may be because A) you have toilet paper coming out the back of your trousers or B) because your skirt got tucked up inside your sweater and you're flashing your undies unknowingly. (Never had Option A happen and my lips are sealed about Option B.)
24. Your gut instinct is right so don't second guess it.
25. Fear really does live in the future and in the past.
26. Drinking hot chocolate while laughing creates nasal geysers not to mention a mess on the table.
27. Being in a funk can be a great indicator that an internal growth spurt is on its way. Embrace the funk.
28. Disco is good music to clean to. (Need I say more?)
29. From all crappy situations come valuable lessons to be learned and something to be grateful for.
30. Coming up with 42 things learned is really not as easy as it looks.
31. Singing loudly in the car or shower is a great way to lift a mood.
32. Sometimes it really is not what you say, but how you say it.
33. Random acts of kindness do make a difference.
34. Gossiping says more about the person gossiping than it does about the person being gossiped about.
35. A day without coffee is a day with a major headache.
36. Words are forever and can never be taken back.
37. My heart is the greatest asset I have.
38. If you're going to dream, you might as well dream big and in Technicolor.
39. Intuitiveness is a beautiful thing.
40. What *they* say (whoever "they" is) is true; the best way to learn is to teach.
41. Walking my own walk is more important than talking the talk.
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42. The most important thing I have learned is how truly blessed I am. The last 42 years have been filled with a great deal of joy, happiness, love, wonderful people, awesome experiences (both good and bad) fun moments, tears, growth, change, prosperity and so much more. I am grateful beyond words and look forward to the next 50+ years of positive lessons to be learned.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Out With the Old, In With the New

I am going to let you in on a little secret... It was not that long ago (about four years to be exact) when I could honestly say that I disliked the holidays. I disliked them profusely. Now before anyone imagines me as the Grinch, let me explain. Since my divorce 7+ years ago it was the agreement between my ex-husband and I that he would have our son for the Christmas holiday. In addition, when others had their special someone to snuggle with by the fire or to kiss under the mistletoe, I found myself alone. (Not to mention, feeling sorry for myself.)

I'm truly happy to report that I no longer dislike and dread the holidays; I now look forward to them. While I miss my son and while I miss sharing the holidays with a significant other, I have a whole new outlook. The holidays have become Pam's Pamper time. This is the time when I do a bit of recharging and reflecting, not to mention spending some fun time with friends and family. Long gone are the days of sitting on the sofa by myself watching sad movies with a box of kleenex. That activity has now been replaced with some of the following:

Long soaks in the jacuzzi, while looking out over the beautiful desert landscape.
Lots of fun reading.
Writing
Cool brainstorming sessions
Sleeping in (provided that my dog lets me. She loves to wake me up at 4:30am to go outside.)
Playing my music really loud.
Manicures, pedicures, and massages.

It has become my time to prepare for the upcoming year and I love it. So my dear friends, if you find yourself in a holiday funk, it is my hope that you will create some fun rituals for yourselves. What do you love doing that you don't often get chance to? What activities will recharge your battery? Now is the time to spend some time with someone very special, YOU!!

Happy Holidays, Everyone! May this holiday season bring you all that is happy, loving, peaceful, and wonderful. I am truly looking forward to all that this holiday season and the New Year has to bring. New beginnings, exciting opportunities, love, and huge potentials are on the horizon; I can just feel it.

Monday, December 15, 2008

I'd Rather Have A Wrinkled Face

"Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul." - Douglas MacArthur

Yep, it's true. I would rather have a wrinkled face than a wrinkled soul. The older I get the more I realize how quitting is not (or should not be) an option for me. HOWEVER, in pondering this thought-provoking quote I am now wondering, can putting off and pushing things to the side for a later time equate to quitting? If so then I have been a quitter in a big way.

Sure, I know that life sometimes gets in the way of the best intentions and goals. And yes, I am aware that other pressing projects sometimes take priority over "want to dos", but I am NOT willing to let myself off the hook that easily. I have things that I want to do, things that are important, things that are meant to be priorities for me. So, what the hell is truly getting in the way?

No, I'm not going to accept (as an answer) that life got in the way or that other projects forced me to squeeze out my own priorities. That is bull and I know it. The bottom line, I have been scared. Yes, you heard me right, scared. Scared that what I wish to accomplish will be rejected or never take off. Ummm, hello, Pam...if I don't do, if I don't try then I have rejected my own intentions and goals, then I have never allowed them to take off. Basically, I have quit.

Dear readers and friends, I assure you that I have not lost my mind. What you have just witnessed is an "aha moment" in action. Here before you, I am announcing that I am NOT going to gain another wrinkle on my soul. Nope! No way! With the New Year fast approaching along with my 42nd year on this planet, I am stating firmly and with conviction that the things I have pushed aside (i.e. a new empowerment ecourse to name but one thing on the horizon) WILL see the light of day. They will, you just wait and see!!

It is my hope that you will join me in eliminating, reducing, and avoiding any wrinkles on your soul. Together, let's hold each other accountable in getting the things that are important to us done. Who's with me?


Sunday, December 07, 2008

Seeking Mottos, Quotes, and Sayings With a Kick

As you know I love quotes, sayings, and mottos. I collect them like others collect stamps, coins, baseball cards, and figurines. Just recently a dear friend of mine sent me the following:

The Powerful Women's Motto: Live your life in such a way that when your feet hit the floor in the morning, Satan shudders and says...'Oh shit...she's awake!!'

Not only did this one make me laugh, but it reminded me of my intention to live out loud, to not take one thing for granted, and to go all out. Life really is too short to sweat the small stuff. It doesn't serves me to live small. It's time to continue truly living full out, to give all that I have to give, to love large, to share positive feelings and thoughts like they are going out of style, and to be one powerful woman. Yep. that's what I got from that awesome little motto.

Do you have a favorite quote, motto, or saying that inspires you to take action? If you do, please share them here; together let's compile one heck of a list of mottos, sayings, and quotes with a kick to inspire, ignite, and empower.

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Getting Down with My Funky, Funk Self

I'm not one to sit in my own crap for too long and feel sorry for myself. It's true, but that hasn't always been the case. Nope...not by a long shot.

I'll be honest, I used to sit in it for days and days until I stunk to high heaven and all the while playing the "woe is me" song. Not only did I sit deeply in it, but I slung it at others, which was not cool (in hindsight). As a matter of fact, if you were to look up the words "victim" or "martyr" you might just have found my picture. Sounds pretty doesn't it?

Today I thank my lucky stars that I have moved past that time and outgrown that person. How do I know? Well, my dear, wonderful readers, I have hit a bit of a funk lately. To put it into perspective, the kind of funk where you don't know whether you wish to scream loudly at everyone and everything or just sit down and ball your head off for days. 

I'm glad to report, I have done neither of those things. YIPPPEEEEE!! That's how I know I have passed the multiple day crap sit-in, victim mentality, "please feel really sorry for me because I can't do anything right" stage.

Instead, I'm getting down with my funky little self and before I tell you how or why, I WANT to say it's OK to sit in your own crap (more than OK) provided that you're the only one sitting in it. Sometimes it's just what we need in order to gain perspective, to feel, and to grow.

Friends, I  am embracing this beautiful, delicious funkiness. Yep, that's right. I am doing all I can (listening to cool tunes, talking with friends, writing, feeling it all, pushing myself at the gym, reminding myself that the “present is perfect” ) to remain motivated and determined because I will be damned if I am going to allow the funk to knock me on my ass. I have things to do, (things that are bigger than me) so frankly, I don't have time, nor do I have the desire to feel sorry for myself (like I once used to).

What’s really cool, I have come to realize that if I can stay standing firm during the funk, what’s on the flipside is always bigger and better. Yep, that means growth and in a major way.

Before I close, please know there is no right or wrong way to dealing with the funk. Everyone has their own way and that’s a beautiful thing, truly. So dear friends, with that said, how do you deal with the funk? Do you get down with your funky, funk self? Do you retreat and get quiet? I’d love to hear your strategy and if you don’t have one that’s cool too, because I’m happy to support you in finding one (if you'd like, of course).

OK, it’s time for me to go back to embracing the funk. I’ll see you all on the flipside. Love to you all in the meantime.