Lately it seems like I have been catching and dodging rather than getting beamed. Situations have arisen that in the past would have unnerved the hell out of me. (I won’t go into the gory details – no need to live the situations twice, right?) What’s surprising, rather than become unnerved I have maintained my cool, stayed as level-headed as possible, and just pushed on through.

How the heck did that happen? What shifted and changed?

Me. I have changed!

As a matter of fact, last week I took a moment to ask myself, “How the hell did you improve those dodge ball skills?” And I came up with the following ;

1) I am slowly, but surely removing tolerations; getting really clear on what I will allow and what I won’t allow into my life.
2) I am working on feeling my feelings and not allowing them to fester.
3) I am strengthen my boundaries; again I am getting really clear on what I will allow and what I won’t allow into my life. Saying “NO WAY” to the things I won’t allow.
4) I am taking better care of me; recharging my battery when I need to.

Here’s to cutting down on the pelt marks and to continuing to dodge and catch. Anyone up for a good game of Reality Dodge Ball?

Other Cool Resources To Check Out
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Letting Go of the Things that Bind

Well, who are you? (Who are you? Who, who, who, who?)
I really wanna know (Who are you? Who, who, who, who?)
Tell me, who are you? (Who are you? Who, who, who, who?)
'Cause I really wanna know (Who are you? Who, who, who, who?)

- The Who

Last week I said that I was ready to clear the shit and prepare my wings for flight. (I truly do want to soar unencumbered.) To begin the process I pulled out my trusty journal and wrote down the following question, “Who do I want to be for me?” I forced myself to not edit my list, but just to write; to capture whatever word popped into my head. (Big task for someone who has to try to be perfect!) Guess what? The words began to flow and I came up with a decent list of descriptors; fun, a person of integrity, loving, daring, real, etc.

I couldn’t stop there. No way! I took it a step farther and using the list I wrote the question, “What do I need to do to be *descriptor*?” For each descriptor I came up with at least two actions that I CONSISTENTLY need to take (to be who I need to be for me). For example;

“What do I need to do to be authentic and real?”

1)      Feel my feelings rather than resist them or stuff them.

2)      Speak my truth.

3)      Worry less about what others think of me and more of what I think of me.

The Outcome

What’s amazing, along with some clarity came a feeling of lightness; a real surge of energy. I walked through this week with a keener sense of awareness and a greater appreciation for everything in my life. What’s cool; business opportunities presented themselves.

Coincidence? I think not.

So here’s your challenge if you choose to accept it…

Who do YOU need to be for you? Make a list and please don’t check it twice, just write. I dare ya!